Prince Charming

Earlier today I read a friend's blog post that I enjoyed for several reasons. It's titled "One day my Prince will come..." and I immediately connected because I used to write that in some of my journal entries. She started off writing about how perfect Prince Charming is and how every little girl might expect him to come...yet he isn't realistic. After reading that I wasn't sure where she was taking the post (I believe that I have finally "found" my Prince Charming, so of course I think it's possible). She then turned it in a different direction and reflected on how she doesn't have to wait for her Prince Charming because he has been here all along in the person of Jesus. We are already princesses and are loved with a deep and great love. She then swings it back to talking about a "future spouse" and I loved these next few lines:

I do believe that if God is calling me to marriage, He has also created a man who will be perfect for me. He will compliment me in all the ways I need to be complimented and he will make me a more holy and faithful woman of God. In his unique way he will be my Prince and sometimes he will save the day but he will never be my Savior.

As I said earlier, I believe I have finally found my Prince Charming. I once thought it was someone else, but turns out I was wrong, and boy am I glad I was wrong. Sometimes people say "you just know," and that is true. It's only been two months but we're already discussing and discerning the vocation of marriage. I learn more and more how we do compliment each other and he (and his dad) make me want to be a better and more holy woman.

I thank God every day for this man, and it turns out that waiting for pursuit really is worth the wait. :-)

Blessings

"I'm in love, I'm in love, and I don't care who knows it!"

Those words from Buddy in Elf stick out to me today.

I met a guy who makes me smile almost 24/7. A guy who greatly respects me and cares deeply about me. It's an amazing feeling! It seems too good to be true that God placed us in each other's lives, but I guess God does like to bless us on occasion. :)

Back to Waiting...

One year and four months later we have decided to "take a break." We talked about the possibility of breaking up last month, but it didn't happen, we "weren't ready." When is anyone ready to end a longterm relationship? We haven't told too many people yet; it's difficult to tell people without tears quickly forming.

He's had a lot of doubts over the past year. I had many doubts and frustrations as well, but still thought he might have been "the one." But maybe I was settling (ugh, I don't like that word!). We came to a place where we were "stuck." We liked dating and being with each other, but our love wasn't growing, it was quite stagnant. It took several hours to talk about what we were going to do, getting off subject, and approaching it again. I knew something had to be done; we either had to work harder at our relationship or end it, because I didn't like that feeling of being in relationship limbo.

That was Monday night. Tuesday we hid our relationship status on Facebook, but not declaring ourselves single just yet. Tuesday night we were hanging out, watching some 24 (we got hooked onto it), and he proposed that we just take a break, that we treat each other as friends do and see how things go. I asked "how do friends treat each other?" and he said "Nice." He explained that he's been treating his friends better than how he treats me, which I could agree with. We still have fun together, so we'll still hang out, but I suppose it won't be as much as we used to see each other. I think we're trying to make this as easy as it can be for us.

I don't care what you call it, "taking a break" or "breaking up" will always suck. It's a really sad time and trying to avoid pain can seem easy, but no matter what, you always need time for healing and facing the brokenness.